If we have to live our full brilliance as leaders, we have to learn to fight our fears. To know them, to see them, and then to cast them aside and forge on. So how can we do that? These are some ways that have worked powerfully for our clients.
I have learned that leadership is not defined by roles and designations. It is not about traits, but about actions. And it’s a journey, not a destination…
When we want to help others, it is tempting to advise them on what they ‘should’ do. Doesn’t usually work. The book “Helping People Change’ has some wonderful lessons on what does work – useful for leaders, doctors, coaches, teachers, parents – or in fact, anyone who works with other people.
How many times do we stop ourselves from doing things because we worry we won’t make a success of them? And so we don’t even try. Small things, and very big ones too. Like career transition.
A focus on the positive activates that part of our brain that makes us more creative, open to possibility, filled with an excitement to get even better. And when we focus on the negative, we tend to justify or negate, not change. It actives the body’s stress response. The fight or flight mode.
If I asked if you are self-aware, what would you say? Most likely you would say yes. Because 95% of people think they are. Unfortunately, the likelihood of your being right is quite low.
Flow has tremendous power. While coaching, when I am able to strike a deep connection with my client, I find flow. There is intense concentration, serenity, timelessness and joy! And the experience is so immersive that nothing else matters. As per Csikszentmihalyi, who first studied it, it is what helps us find true happiness in life.