When we want to help others, it is tempting to advise them on what they ‘should’ do. Doesn’t usually work. The book “Helping People Change’ has some wonderful lessons on what does work – useful for leaders, doctors, coaches, teachers, parents – or in fact, anyone who works with other people.
How many times do we stop ourselves from doing things because we worry we won’t make a success of them? And so we don’t even try. Small things, and very big ones too. Like career transition.
Mid-career transitions – times when we choose to change our career track – can be incredibly hard. Not the least because as we do this, we lose a part of our identity. In the in-between phase, we can no longer define who we are.
If I asked if you are self-aware, what would you say? Most likely you would say yes. Because 95% of people think they are. Unfortunately, the likelihood of your being right is quite low.
Ambition – the part of me that counts my successes every week (okay, every day). That wants to get bigger, better. And fast. But it is only the other part of me, the awareness in the current moment, that allows me to truly connect with my why.
Flow has tremendous power. While coaching, when I am able to strike a deep connection with my client, I find flow. There is intense concentration, serenity, timelessness and joy! And the experience is so immersive that nothing else matters. As per Csikszentmihalyi, who first studied it, it is what helps us find true happiness in life.
While we mourn the loss of an icon, I wanted to pause and reflect on what I want to learn from RBG and incorporate into my own life.
Did you know how dramatically women are missing from the data across multiple disciplines? As a result, decisions are based on male data, which is assumed to be representative of all. The results range from disappointing to downright disastrous.
I recently collected some data on the common aspirations and challenges of purpose-driven leaders. The one that really stood out? Burnout. I’ve experienced it myself, and it was debilitating. I was exhausted, my memory was faltering, and I felt I didn’t have access to my full brain power in order to make decisions.